Dear ,

In this year of big changes and transformations, of trauma and grief for so many human beings on the planet and of so much separation going on everywhere, my focus was directed naturally more and more on the importance of allowing the HEART to be at the center of our life, private and professional.

In all the sessions with my students, participants in groups and workshops and with my single clients I was allowed to more and more, get a deeper understanding of what it means to connect from the heart and how healing this inter-connection is when it truly happens.

In our modern life we forgot about what it means to connect from the heart. Our mind has become the most important means of connection. This begins even before we start going to school and continues all through our life. Knowledge from books and degree studies are more important than the wisdom we have inside, than learning and growing through other channels than our mind.

Already Einstein was so clear about it when he said:

“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift, and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honours the servant and has forgotten the gift.”

And this intuitive mind is what we access when we connect with and act from the heart space.

Try it out in a moment when you are talking to someone. Pause for a moment and realize where your words are coming from. You will understand that mostly you are talking from your rational mind or sometimes you are just talking for talking’s sake.

And then, consciously go down from your mind to your heart space. You can support this process by putting a hand on your heart, to deepen the shift. How does your talking change now? How does your perception of the other person change? And how do you feel?

The same applies of course to the conversations we have with ourselves. When the inner critic appears, when we judge ourselves, when we are sad or frustrated. Try it out and connect consciously with your heart space in these moments and you will know what I mean. 

We have explored this in many exercises this year with some of you and I am so grateful for all these experiences. So, I decided to make “Connecting from the heart” the main theme of my work in 2022.

Especially for professionals who work with other human beings, this special connection is essential. It allows you to really connect and at the same time stay centred and in your own space. And it creates a space where you connect to all the gifts you have inside, without being aware of it, without trying, a space where everything is possible.

From this space I am sending you my best wishes for an Advent season and a Christmas where you allow yourself to connect from the heart with everyone and everything around you, especially with yourself.

May you embrace the gift that you will discover within yourself and may you end this year by shining your light into a 2022 where the wounds, especially the ones of these last 2 years, may be able to heal.

Last but not least, I also want to express my heartfelt gratitude to all of you who have trusted me in 2021, who allowed me to support you, and be part of your life journey. Maybe you would not be where you are now without me, but surely, I would not be where I am now without you. Thank you!

In the spirit of love and reconciliation




As already announced in my last newsletter, I will leave Facebook at the end of the year. This applies to my personal account but also to the FB group.

I was pondering on it for a long time now and have carefully considered my reasons.

Before I share these with you, I would like to say that I am very grateful to FB, as it allowed me, especially during the 3 years I lived in Malta, to connect with many of you. I don’t know where I would be now, where we would be now, without FB. It was a means of connection, not only for my work, but especially also for my private life, keeping in touch with friends.

So why am I leaving?

First of all because, and this is just my personal opinion, FB has become a tool for separation and splitting. It feels different from that FB that I had joined 10 years ago. It feels like a tool of censorship where even true and evident facts and contributions are marked as contrary to the regulations, where accounts are blocked or deleted only because their content goes against the agenda of some people in power.

Second because somehow it started to become a kind of addiction or at least a pattern of a very unconscious need to check again and again for new posts, scrolling down a myriad of information that my brain is not even able to process any more. It gives us the illusion that we are connected, but it’s an illusion as the connection is superficial. Imagine doing in real life what you do on FB. You meet one friend, spend a few seconds or, if it is much, minutes with them and then you pass on to the next one. There are so many valuable posts of people who share their wisdom, posts that would be worthy of staying with them for a day, to reflect, process and then reply with an adequate grateful answer. But you have not even a chance to stay with them as the next post pops up and the next and the next. So, our apparent connectedness is an illusion. Some might be happy with this and that’s absolutely ok. It is just that for me it does not feel right anymore. I am longing for real connection, although maybe virtual, for real exchange without distraction.


How do I feel about it?

To be honest, although I know it is the right choice, I am also afraid of leaving FB. Afraid of losing connection with people I am holding dear and that have become part of my life journey. Will they still be in touch if the “easy and automatic” way of connection is no longer available?

But I am also curious of what’s going to happen. Curious about new ways of connecting, maybe less but deeper. Curious about who will join me on my new platform because they value my contribution to their journey. Curious about reactions of all kind.

And I would really appreciate your feedback. Maybe I am alone with what I am thinking and feeling. Maybe some of you feel the same. Maybe some think I am crazy to do this. All kind of feedback is welcome.


Where am I going?

As I said, I will create a channel on the Telegram app and I will communicate the name of the channel at the end of the month to all who are interested. The plan is to publish small weekly podcasts about different topics, answer questions, publish my events and share my knowledge with you.

If you are interested to follow me there, please use this form. There is also space for leaving your comments and thoughts about me leaving FB. If you don’t know what Telegram is and how to use it, check it out or get in touch.


I am sending much love to all of you. The ones who will continue to follow me and the ones who decide that it is time to go separate ways. I am holding you all in my heart.

And of course the newsletters will continue throughout 2022.



 Sunday, January 16th 2022

Sunday, February 13th 2022

10:00 am to 5:00 pm CET

If you want to participate as a REPRESENTATIVE please register through this link

ISSUE HOLDER spaces for January are fully booked, but you can ask to be put on the waiting list.



New Basic Training in Systemic/Family Constellations

The training will start on May 5th 2022 - check the link


News for 2022

I will offer the following groups/seminars/workshops in the first half of 2022

If you are interested in the one or other event, or have other topics you would like to explore, please let me know through the form below. 

1) Personal development group for professionals

A safe space, open to everyone who’s interested  in gaining insights and in finding out more about themselves through the systemic-phenomenological perspective (one evening session every 2 months)

2) "The gift of the ancestors"

The spirit of our ancestors is present, they want us to live a happy life, to honour their life and death through us living our gifts and talents. Are you ready to meet them? Are you ready to embrace their support in your life? (4 online evening sessions)

3) "The orders of helping"

This online seminar might offer a (potentially) new perspective on your work and helping in general. In three online evening sessions you will learn about the 5 Orders of Helping and experience how they can transform your work. (3 evening sessions)

4) "Connecting from the heart"

This weekend workshop will give you the opportunity to experience what it means to connect from the heart and find clarity and peace with whatever you bring along.


Thank you for expressing your interest through




1to1 sessions will be available from mid/end of January. Please get in touch through this link for registration 1TO1 HEALING SESSIONS


Any questions you might have, please feel free to contact me.


Thank you for your trust and for allowing me to be part of your life journey

Much love, Ursula

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