Dear ,

The deepest insight from constellation work is, that change and healing come from a place of acknowledging what is.

This does not mean that we are happy with what is – it means that we clearly see where we are in this moment and that we accept that - in this very moment - we cannot be somewhere else.

Until we wish this very moment to be different, we cannot be really present. We will or live in the past and wish for past moments to come back – or we will live in the future, dreaming of something that might never be or being afraid of something that might never happen.

Neither the past nor the future bring the solutions or the healing. Only this present moment.

Imagine yourself standing on a line. You are on the position of “the present moment”. Behind you there is “the past” and in front of you there is “the future”. And now imagine yourself torn between past and future or being drawn to either of them.

Are you grounded? Are you able to see clearly? Are you able to take action or make the right decisions?

I think the answer to this is clear.

Directing our thoughts with sadness and frustration to “what has been” or “what could have been” or with fear or wishful thinking to “what might be” throws us out of balance. Every time we get back to reality we wake up from a dream. And the difference between the dream and reality hurts, saddens, frustrates us. And it brings up fear and anxiety. Fear makes us act in irrational and unreasonable ways – and thus often worsens our situation.

And – most importantly: Where there is fear, love cannot exist. And were love is missing, we cannot truly express ourselves, find the right solutions for ourselves and others.

Fear and frustration close our heart chakra. We lose the connection with our heart and with this we lose ourselves in our thoughts and mental constructions.

Fear goes away when we open our hearts.  Because then we allow love to flow.

The opposite of love is not hatred but fear.

To open our heart means that we allow the present moment to be exactly as it is. It means that we are present with all our senses – our eyes, ears, touch, smell and taste. We allow the present moment to touch us and to teach us. We listen.

And this is how we get answers to how we can proceed in a grounded way. Answers to how we will manage the isolation, to how we might change our life or make important decisions, to how we might change our professional appearance, to how we might stay in touch with our friends and family, but also clients, and much more.

This present moment is where creativity arises and new insights about life in general or our personal life, come up.

I know that it is hard “to stay in the presence and acknowledge what is”, especially in these times that we are living at the moment.  And yet, it would be the strongest healing “movement”.

Yes, it is a movement. Staying in the presence does not equal being passive. It is a very conscious action, a conscious decision and a deep inner movement. Give it a try.

I wish you from my heart that the month of May will be a month of staying in the presence and acknowledging what is for all of you.

In the spirit of love and reconciliation

Ursula

Family Constellations and

1to1 constellations online

Constellation work means ACKNOWLEDGING WHAT IS.

Yes, we would love to go back to normal, to meet in physical groups, to share, hug and connect.

But should we really allow the present situation to hinder us from working on our issues, from growing personally and from healing?

The past online constellation workshops and 1to1 constellation sessions showed clearly that we can trust in the field, that opening up to new ways of connecting and working together is possible.

Embracing and integrating these new opportunities overcomes the limitations that we encounter in this moment in time. Limitations ultimately exist in our mind – when we let go of our concept of limitations, we open up new spaces.

The virtual space for most of us was (or still is) an unknown space for doing constellations. But only because something is unknown does not mean that it does not exist or does not work.

I think it is best to let some participants of the last online constellation workshops speak about their experience.

“I have recently had the opportunity to participate in my first ever online constellation. The experience has left me with a deeper sense of respect for this work. I really had my doubts at first - or at least I was not sure how it would work. But, it did and on every level proved to be helpful and extremely effective. Thank you for the opportunity it was deeply felt.”

“I thought the workshop on Sunday exceeded my expectations and that the energies vibrated clearly even online. Setting the container and having clear facilitation and guidance from Ursula really made it feel safe and as a result there was a high level of trust, openness and deep listening from all the participants I felt. Symbolism and synchronicity were flowing freely and everyone gained and benefited from the insights. Thank you.”

“It was great to be able to participate in your constellation workshop online. It was very touching and had a long-lasting effect.”

"I’m mother of 2 small children and have very limited free time for myself. I found it a perfect solution to participate online constellations from my own home. Actually I didn’t feel a big difference if we are together in one room or connected in Zoom app. Energy doesn’t have space and time, so these online constellations work perfectly. Looking forward to the next one. Thank you Ursula for this opportunity."

"Ursula makes family constellations online so easy, so simple, so touching and alive that it feels as if we were in each other’s presence. I could feel connected to anyone on my screen. Being an issue holder, I felt totally supported and listened to. I am grateful for the opportunity of having been part of such a mysterious and healing journey."

 “I have experienced the online constellation similar with the live ones, the difference is about the logistic and a bit of technicality. The field works the same online and I found the workshop rich and with lot of insights for myself as a representative. Looking forward for more workshops online, highly recommended.”

“It’s fascinating how this work works online just as deeply as it does in person. The day with Ursula felt as if we were in the room together, the impact, depth and richness of the process was powerful. Thank you, I look forward to joining again.”

“Dear Ursula, just wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart for the wonderful work you've done and with your help - all of us as well. It was very powerful and beautiful. Just as in real life!” 

"Yes, online family constellations work. Although I had no doubt that we are all connected no matter where we are, I wanted to experience it first-hand. I was chosen as a representative twice and I can truly say that there was no difference comparing to a physical constellation. Ursula is an amazing facilitator and she guided us through it in a very clear and professional way. To do a constellation online via Zoom was a great experience and it would be my pleasure to participate again."

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 I will not advertise any online constellation workshops at the moment as they come up naturally with people asking me to work (2 will be now on the coming Sundays).

So if you feel you would like to work on your issue/question, please get in touch with me. I am happy to have a personal chat to see if a constellation in a group or a 1to1 constellation feels more appropriate and to explain how it works.

If you would like to participate as a representative in an online constellation, let me know. I will put you on the list and as soon as there is a number of two “issue holders” the next constellation workshop will happen and I will get in touch with you. Representatives can join on a donation basis of their choice.

Each online constellation workshop lasts 4 hours with a longer break in between. And there will be 2 constellations. All you need is a laptop to connect and a quiet space.

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Due to my move to Bulgaria at the end of June there will be no more physical constellation group workshops in Exeter.

My next visit in Malta is planned for October – depending on travel permits or restrictions.

For any questions or requests you can get in touch via email u.bell@ursulamariabell.com or using the CONTACT FORM on my website

Training in Family and Systemic Constellations

The next training will start in January 2021!

If you are interested in joining next year's training please get in touch through the link below and save your space on the provisional list without any obligations.

Seeing so many people outside with mobiles and earplugs I thought that it might be nice to share 30 seconds of consciously becoming aware of how amazing it is to listen to nature. Enjoy ❤